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HONOURING THE FEMININE
We kick this year off Astrologically with an intense, super sensitive, feminine Full Moon in Cancer on 12th January, AND all the planets have turned direct! Leading up to, during and after the Full Moon, it’s highly likely that emotions could run high. Full moons always highlight the polarities that exist within us and in our relationships, bringing to the surface that which has been hiding in the dark. .. and this is a big one!
Involved with this Full moon, are Pluto the plumber and planet of intense transformation who is travelling close to the Sun in responsible Capricorn, the Moon in sensitive, nurturing Cancer; both of which are squared by Uranus ( planet of change) and Jupiter (planet of expansion) . This forms a giant Grand Cross in the Sky, which has the potential of cracking open and breaking through the armour that we may have erected around our hearts, in our striving to move forward. The full moon is also in a flowing trine formation to a group of planets in Pisces (a feminine sign). These include the wounded healer Chiron, Neptune, Mars and Venus, so its a very fertile time for feeling and healing on all levels.
As we all hurtle up our respective responsibility-laden, goal-driven mountains, ensuring that we’re earning enough money, working as hard as we can, taking care of everybody else, perhaps burning the candle at both ends, there’s a huge tendency to close off our hearts, block off our emotions and become desensitised to what’s actually going on inside and around us .
This full moon sets the scene for us to really start to honour and respect the softer, more vulnerable parts of ourselves, because only when we’re able to do so, can we respect and honour the same in others.
Meryl Streep recently made a powerful heart wrenching speech when she received her award at the Golden Globes. There has been some controversy about it, but for me, Streep ( a Cancerian) epitomises the mature woman, who despite her huge success, has kept her heart open and therein lies her immense talent and power.
“Disrespect invites disrespect.
Violence incites violence.
Take your broken heart.
Make it into Art. “
Most of us are scared stiff of allowing our hearts to be broken open. It feels much easier to build walls around them. We witness something horrifying. We turn away. We continue to trudge up the mountain. We become immune!
The problem is that when we block out the difficult feelings, we also block out the good ones. Repress, ignore or numb pain and we start to flat-line, as feelings of love and joy can’t flow freely either.
This full moon and for the next few weeks, see if you can surrender to the feelings that arise (because they will). Feel. Breathe. Soften. Allow. If you try it – you’ll notice that the difficult emotions pass much quicker when we don’t suppress them and they are also less likely to emerge later as explosions or illness or depression.
This grand cross is likely to bring some of our exiled shadow bits out of hiding. This could result in people projecting their issues onto you, so, when interacting with others in the next few days, take long, deep, calming breaths before you react.
As our own emotional reactions (Cancer) become less spiky and more considered (Capricorn), our interactions with others become smoother as well.
The message of this full moon is about embracing and expanding the mature mother within us , men and women alike. Rather than expecting and waiting for someone else to provide us with what we need, we’re being asked to learn to give it to ourselves. But… before we can do that, we have to connect with what we need.
If it’s normal for you to put everybody else’s needs before yours, this is the time to start turning that around. There really is nothing noble about ignoring our feelings and our needs and not taking care of ourselves. All that happens when we do, is that they go underground, only to reappear in a different form, when we least expect it.
If, like many of us, you’re not particularly adept at nurturing yourself, commit (Capricorn) to doing something nurturing (Cancer) for yourself every single day, until it becomes a habit. Its like watering a plant daily. Do it with love and tenderness and the plant will flourish and grow. This will look different for us all. It could be something as simple as massaging cream (gently and tenderly) into your skin, quietly sipping a steaming cup of something, languishing in a hot foamy bath or cooking yourself some comfort food.
If each of us brings more softness, more gentlenesss into our lives, it magnifies out into the world and brings about change at a level we cannot even comprehend.
“The planet does not need more successful people. The planet desperately needs more peacemakers, healers restorers, story tellers and lovers of all kinds”.
These are the words of the Dalai Lama, who like Madiba, is a Cancerian – real men, who have integrated their Mature Feminine. This is what the world needs now.