Solar Eclipse 13 July- Riding the Wave

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Have any of you been feeling some rather intense energy over the last few days …particularly around family, security, home, mothering, roots?  Well…  its not really surprising, as we prepare for the New Moon Solar Eclipse in Cancer in the early hours of Friday morning 13 July (in South Africa).

It’s always emotionally intense  when both the sun and the moon are in the watery, sensitive  sign of the crab, but this one takes it up a good few notches.

When we have a solar eclipse, the sun is overwhelmed by the moon.  In other words the feminine vanquishes the masculine. The light disappears and we are pulled into the darkness for a while.

This can feel scary at first, but when we stay there for a while, our eyes start to readjust and we start to see things differently. When the obvious colours and details are not available, we start to look at things in a deeper way. That is what is asked of us now.

DEEP SEA DIVING

This New Moon eclipse forms an exact opposition to Pluto, the king of the underworld, modern ruler of Scorpio.  Pluto is the plumber of the zodiac, beckoning us beneath the surface, so that we might process any debris that might be sitting there, or, to be blunt,  clear out the sewer. Not a particularly pleasant thing to do, but quite necessary every now and then to avoid even more, serious blockages in the future.

Suffice to say, emotions that are coming up right now might not be comfortable at all, especially for those who have a lot of fire/ air in their charts, who prefer to keep things light and positive!

Amongst myself and my closest friends, here are some examples of what is and has been arising over the past week. Issues around home/security/ finances/;    illness to do with fluids (pneumonia);  flooding of houses; old emotional issues coming to the surface;  leaking roofs,  a feeling of general down-ness or off-ness for no seeming reason; big emotions around parenting/  family issues and responsibilities; feeling sick to the stomach; feeling lost at sea, having lost sight of the shore; vivid disturbing dreams.

So – what do we do?

Well, those troublesome, irritating feelings or general dis-ease,  “off-ness” or “not-so-goodness”, are just the tip of the iceberg. Underneath, if we do some deep sea diving, we may discover beauties like anger, sadness, grief, rage or fear, which are desperately trying to get our attention. And… as usual, we have the choice to feel them or to beat them into submission… guess which one works better?

HONOUR YOUR FEELINGS

The good news is that if we are prepared to honour the feelings that come up, we have a very supportive, very powerful Grand Water Trine, formed by Sun/Moon, Jupiter and Neptune, which can help us to bring understanding to or clear some debris, so that we can move forward, lighter and less encumbered. Jupiter in Scorpio (more water)  has just moved direct after 4 months of being retrograde. With Jupiter being a beneficial planet, this can be seen as a positive thing – much like a giant pressure hose, coming in to clear away all the sticky stuff, if we choose to allow it to do so.

If however, we elect to repress or medicate or numb the emotions that are coming up, they will simply join the others  lurking in the sewer,  until the next time.

If  there was ever a time to ride the wave of emotion, this is it. Many of us are feeling the angst and suffering of Mother Earth and humanity right now, in addition to our own.  Consider this… what if, each time we  feel a feeling, without  censorship or guilt, we help to transmute it, perhaps not only for ourselves, but for mankind and Mother Earth too?

RADICAL SELF CARE

I see this as a time of radical self care. If you feel insecure, needy, inadequate, sad or full of rage, sit with it for a few moments and breathe into it…  or express it in some way… dance it, sing it, paint it, write a poem about it, journal it –   if it’s anger, hitting a pillow really helps.  Then ask yourself how best you can show up, nourish and nurture yourself.  Maybe that means  cooking yourself a warm nourishing meal, sitting next to a fire, or perhaps connecting with the people who love you, taking a nap, or having a hot bath.  What would you advise your best friend, lover or child to do if they were in distress?

…Do that for yourself!

Every single time we abandon or berate ourselves, we deplete our energetic  and emotional tanks. Every time we value and love ourselves, we fill them up. All our tanks need regular cleaning and refilling and this is the time to do it. The fuller our individual tanks are, the more love we have to give.

SOME TOOLS TO HELP YOU RIDE THE WAVE

You might want to try Emotional Freedom Technique. Try it – it’s really simple and sure  does work. Whilst tapping certain points, you acknowledge what you are feeling (out loud preferably EG “Even though I am feeling …. X, Y Z, I deeply love and approve of myself”

Other tools that could help would be grounding – spending time outside with no shoes,  walking, spending time in nature, meditating, deep breathing, or visiting a hypnotherapist, trusted energy worker or psychologist. Just as we feed ourselves nutritional food,  and exercise our physical bodies, our emotional bodies and energetic bodies also need regular nourishment and tune ups!

 

Eclipses always happen in sets and have much longer lasting effects than normal new and full moons. This one marks the start of the Cancer/ Capricorn eclipse season, which will last until 2020, so there’s lots of time to work with these themes . The last time we had an eclipse at the same degree was 11 July 2010, so you might find that there are similar themes that are coming up.

SET THOSE NEW INTENTIONS

This solar eclipse is also an excellent time to set new intentions. Wherever 20 degrees of Cancer/ Capricorn lies in your chart will usually be where this is most pressing.

If you’d like to plumb further into this, you might consider setting up an Eclipse Reading, where we can explore how and where this is going to be working with you personally over the next few years.

AUGUST WORKSHOP AND RETREAT

My next Art & Soul workshop, CELEBRATING WOMEN will be in Durban on Women’s Day, 9th August, followed by COME HOME TO YOU,  a retreat on 10th to 12th August, where I will be collaborating with Deborah Prosser of Rest & Digest.

CAPE TOWN WORKSHOPS

Stay tuned for exciting new workshops and retreats in the Cape Area.

With  you in the Ocean

Michelle

 

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New Moon March 17th in Pisces

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BY MICHELLE MCCLUNAN

Hi Everybody

Well we’re in the final stages of the moon’s waning (releasing) cycle and preparing for the New Moon March 17th in Pisces. This is a really important one, as it heralds not only the end of a month’s cycle, but also the beginning of the end of our Astrological year. The New Year starts on 20th /21st March, when the Sun moves in Aries.

Due to the New Moon being in close proximity to Chiron, the wounded healer, this is also a very unique  opportunity to gain understanding and bring healing to our deepest and most painful struggles or hurts. More about that further on. This is greatly expanded and possibly assisted by a trine to Jupiter in Scorpio. We also have 3 planets in Aries, adding a fiery element to the mix.

NEW MOON IN PISCES

A new moon in Pisces is always a time of letting go, releasing and planting new seeds for the year ahead.  As a mutable water sign. Pisces strengthens our connection to all that is/ Source/ the Divine; as well as activating and deepening our imagination, intuition and creativity. At this time of the year, we are able to refine our perceptions and raise our consciousness, by aligning with and flowing with the energy of the moment. It is a time to release and surrender the year.

The symbol for Pisces is two fish swimming in opposite directions and there are most definitely two sides to the sign, as there are with all the signs of the zodiac.

THE FLIP SIDE

The flip side of Pisces energy is that it is can also be a time when we feel the suffering of everything more acutely, when we are more sensitive or when our grief, sadness, fears, or victimhood can come to the surface. We can also feel lethargic, tired, confused,  all at sea, in a fog, hopeless, invaded, frustrated, victimised, or ill. It’s the end of a cycle after all!  It’s often a time when people who have been struggling to release an age or illness-ravaged body are able to finally let it go. If you haven’t heard, Stephen Hawkins passed yesterday. My uncle passed peacefully on Tuesday too. He was very old and it was time! Whilst visiting him last week, he certainly seemed to be connecting with and drifting between different dimensions, starting the process of completing his journey here and moving on.

FALLOW FIELDS AND THE VOID

So – this is the time of the year when the fields of our lives need to be cleared, and the soil left to stand fallow for a bit to recover,  before a new crop is planted.

The problem is, most of us homo sapiens are more human doings than human beings, and a lot of us aren’t too crazy about stopping the noise, possible because when it does, we are pulled into a quiet place where all that remains is us and “all that is”.  We generally aren’t too happy to be in a void for long, so we tend to fill it up as quickly as we can and that is where the exhaustion sets in.  We just don’t give ourselves time to catch our breaths and recover, before carrying on with the next thing!

Nevertheless, it’s very clear that this is what we’re being called up upon to do, even it its uncomfortable at first. Bite sized pieces of the void are better than no void at all 😊That’s why meditation or stillness are so important, because they give us mini vacations in our overflowing lives.

CHIRON – THE WOUNDED HEALER

The reason this new moon is SO important is because of Chiron, who is sailing along right next to the sun and the moon and is about to leave the sign of Pisces where he has been since 2011.  Due to having a 51 year orbit, this marks the end of a much longer cycle as well!.

Chiron, the Wounded Healer (we all have one) can be seen as the wound that make us wise;  the pain and struggles that are actually designed to help to grow and raise our consciousness, even though it really doesn’t feel like that sometimes!  When Chiron moves through Pisces, we are asked to investigate how much we trust  – not other people –  but rather how much we trust the flow of life; how much we are able to surrender to the ebb and flow cycles; how much we are able to understand that we are connected and supported by something much bigger and more mysterious than our the physical world.

If you were born between the years of around 1961 to 1969, you probably have your natal Chiron in Pisces, like me, which means that this is part of your core wound anyway, If so, you  might feel as if you’re being tested now more than other people, as Chiron makes his last freestyle dash though the deep waters of Pisces, making sure you get the message and the healing. There is help at hand!

TRUST, SURRENDER AND RELEASE

Whether or not you fall into this category, we are ALL  being urged to trust, surrender and release something or somebody at this time.

IF YOU HAVE HAD YOUR CHART DONE:

The area that Chiron is moving through your chart will give you clues as to where you need to trust, surrender and release. If for example, Chiron has been travelling through your 4th house, it might suggest that something to do with your home or your home itself or your family needs to be released. If he’s travelling through your 10th house, then the focus would be on on your career/vocation; in the 6th house your health and so on. The area in which Chiron was in when you were born will also be brought into the mix.

Wherever Chiron is now and wherever it was when you were born, you would have had many opportunities to work with  trust.  faith, surrender and deepening your connection over the past 7 years or so.

You’re welcome to book a short session with me to investigate how this is playing out in your chart, and what you need to release  before Chiron moves into Aries in April. Heads up – This might be contrary to your personal preference!

IF YOU HAVEN’T HAD YOUR CHART DONE

If you  haven’t had your chart done or aren’t keen to have it done, then just just intuitively connect with what you feel you need to release right now in your life.

HOW TO WORK WITH THIS ENERGY

  • Please make some time before or on the New Moon to jot down the main things that have happened in the last astrological year in all aspects of your life. The wins, the losses, new arrivals, departures, health, work, finances, home, family etc.
  • If possible, do some kind of clearing or detoxing of mind, spirit, body before the New Moon as well. This is arguably the best time of the year to do this.
  • Then preferably on the day of the new moon, connect with the energy of water in some way – the sea, a river, a dam, a stream or if none of those a swimming pool, bath or bowl of water.
  •  One idea is to write  down what you want to release, on a leaf or a stone and set it down / throw it into the water… or come up with something even more imaginative!  Watch as it drifts down the river or gets washed out to sea. As you do so, repeat to yourself

I cleanse and release all the dead weight from the year gone by. I release………………………. (be specific)

I calm and centre my mind, body, and spirit, so I may hear the calling of my soul guiding me in the right direction

I replenish my energy and welcome in a new vision for my life (describe it) – you could send something into the water course to represent this too, if you like.

We’ll be  working with this in my  EBB & FlOW Workshop on Saturday 17th March. I still have a bit of space, so join us if you are able to. Email me for details

MERCURY RETROGRADE

Mercury will be retrograde from 23rd March to 16th April,  so make sure you back up all your data and double check travel arrangements before then.

Thanks for reading!

In Life and Light

 

Michelle

 

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Solar Eclipse/ New Moon 15th February

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Hi everybody

We’re preparing for the partial Solar Eclipse on 15th February (New Moon in Aquarius), following the Lunar Eclipse on 31st January.

The period between the two is often referred to as an eclipse gateway.   Due to eclipses always representing points of growth, awakening and change – this can be a very powerful time, albeit not always entirely comfortable.

At a partial Solar Eclipse, the Moon is positioned in between the Earth and the Sun, partially blocking out it’s light.

We experience the effect of Eclipses for at least six months and as discussed in my last video, this pair  link back to February and August 2017, as well as further back to 19/20 years ago (1998/1999).

This does NOT mean that the same things are going to happen again, but if you look back, its very likely that you’ll find some common threads and themes, particularly if points are being triggered in your personal birth chart. It’s likely to particularly apparent if you have your Sun, Moon, Ascendant or other personal planets that fall in Aquarius or Leo.

When we’re in between a Lunar and a Solar Eclipse, as we are now, it means that we are in a waning moon cycle, which is a time of letting go of the old, so as to make space for the new.

During this eclipse gateway and on the day of the eclipse, it can seem as though everything that is buried deep down inside us is being pulled up to the surface. We might feel anywhere between a bit lethargic or lazy, to flat out depressed and confused. It’s often a time of endings and is always an excellent time to detox and clear out the clutter!

These particular eclipse pairs are encouraging us to look at our lives from a higher perspective and potentially make some rather massive paradigm shifts.

The Aquarius / Leo axis is concerned with how we give and receive love (including love for ourselves);  whether we’re on course and are shining our light into the world the way we would like to; whether we are acting or reacting from our small selves (ego) or  from our big selves and how our actions and reactions are contributing to the collective.

Whenever there is a lot of energy in Aquarius, which there is at the moment, we tend to get shaken out of any ruts that we might be in.

When the same old knee jerk reactions, hurts, fears and insecurities come up over and over again, it can often feel as if we’re just going around in never ending circles.

Even though it seems that way, nature (and astrology 😊) continually show us that this just  isn’t the case!.

In my workshops this month, we’re working with the symbol of the Spiral, which appears EVERYwhere in nature, showing us that there is an incredible, awe-inspiring Divine order and symmetry, which we often  can’t rationally comprehend.

I find it more  helpful to see our cycles as spirals, rather than  endless circles. This way, whenever it seems that we’re  experiencing the same old thing, we can consciously make the choice of seeing it and responding to it  in a different way.

Compare yourself now, to yourself 19 or 20 years ago. With a great deal of gentleness and compassion, notice your patterns, where you seem to say or do the same things over and over again, or where the same situations seem to be repeating  themselves.

As soon as you feel yourself in what feels like familiar similar situation, or find yourself about to react in the same way, about to utter the same words, take a moment. Breathe. Centre yourself. Get some distance. Breathe more.  And then make the choice to  consciously respond differently.

If somebody is pushing your buttons – that taxi driver, that colleague, friend,  family member – that person who always seems to say or do just the thing that makes you want to run and hide or scream or shut down or cry … ask what they are showing you, about you. Perhaps they could be enacting your shadow side – the part of you that you disown out of hand? You might not be able to change them, but they could be teaching you something valuable.

Aquarius asks that we BE the change that we want to see in the world and big change starts with small change. For the next month, why not change it up.  Instead of sitting in the same place, sit somewhere else, use a different tea mug, drive a different way to work, move your furniture around, introduce one new thing into your life and stick with it for 21 days. Find new thoughts and affirmations to replace old self-sabotaging ones.

There’s a strong Neptunian flavour to this eclipse passage too, with Venus moving into Pisces on the 11th February and Neptune (the ruler of Pisces)  squaring Mars.  One one hand, this can bring confusion, slipperiness, lethargy,  or delusion  AND/OR  it can be beautifully creative and romantic and can  lead to deep insights and healing.

HOW IS THE ECLIPSE SEASON PLAYING OUT IN YOUR CHART?

Consider booking a reading with me to explore where and how this eclipse season is playing out in your chart and how you can best work with it’s energy.  In July/August we will have the last two eclipses on this axis (for the next 19 years), so there’s still time to bring understanding and integration to what they are trying to show us.

ART & SOUL WORKSHOPS

I still have some space on my SPIRAL OF LIFE workshop on Saturday 17th February, as well as two places on the EBB AND FLOW RETREAT in Grotto bay from 1st to 4th March.

In my March Durban  workshops – Wednesday Mornings and Saturday 17th  March (new Moon)  we will also  be working with the Ebb and Flow theme as the Sun makes its way through Pisces. Please email me for more details.

 

In Life and Light

 

Michelle

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NEW MOON 18th NOVEMBER – Powerful Healing Opportunity

 

 

New Moon November 18th November is in the watery sign of Scorpio.  For the days leading up to the new moon, we have a real  opportunity to let go of that which  isn’t serving us. On the day of the new moon, we have some powerful healing energy to help us to get in touch with our true feelings and  connect  much more deeply with our soul’s wisdom. More in the video

 

In Life and Light

 

Michelle

 

 

 

Astrology 19th to 26th September

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New Moon Virgo – The Trap of Perfectionism

We kick off the next few weeks with a New Moon on 20th September in Virgo, along with Mars, Venus and Mercury.  That’s a whole lot of Virgo Energy, so how best can we work with it?

New moon in Virgo is a great time to plant seeds for a healthier, more organised life.

  • Discern what you need and what you don’t
  • Clear out the clutter
  • Strategise a healthy, practical way forward

Chiron and Saturn are involved, so perfectionism and criticism are highly likely to appear.

Can you allow yourself to move forward on something, despite the  fear that it might not be as  perfect as you’d like or that you might be criticised for it?

Are you ready to let go of some of your perfectionism and self criticism, to allow what is inside you to emerge?

If you bring forth what is within you , what is within you will save you.                                    If you do not bring forth what is within you, what is within you will destroy you. Gospel of Thomas

What is it within you that you would like to bring forth?

I am doing my best to find my way out of my  own Trap of Perfectionism by publishing my very first VIDEO, where I explore this theme more deeply.  Please check it out and let me know what you think.

Love Michelle

Lifelight Astrology Update 21 July

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There’s some exciting Astrological weather ahead, with the Eclipse Season approaching, ushered in by a New Moon in Leo, the first of two in the same sign!

Two weeks ago, I wrote about the Phoenix Process, which is undoubtedly still in play.  Without going into the details, I for one, have definitely been through the fire and although the flames have subsided a little, there’s still a whole lot of heat around and ahead of us –  more like burning embers than a raging inferno,  but fire and heat nonetheless.

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Yesterday, Mars emerged from the deep waters of Cancer, after a 6 week sojourn,  during which, a whole lot of emotion was churned up. He has now just entered Leo, the brave-hearted Lion King, where he’ll be brandishing his fiery sword for the next  6 weeks.

 

 

On Sunday 23rd July,  the warrior planet will be joined by the Sun and the Moon, presenting us with a New Moon in Leo.    This  sets things in motion for the  eclipse season ( Lunar eclipse on the 17th August and a Total Solar Eclipse (new moon in Leo) on the 21st  August. As the  second New moon is also in Leo,  some astrologers refer to it as a black moon. This is all particularly  relevant for people who have personal planets in Leo and Aquarius!

 

The first new moon in Leo ushers in what feels to me energetically like a holding pattern, a bed of embers stretching before us, beckoning us to walk through them and burn away anything that is still preventing  us from expressing ourselves in all our glory.  With the Sun, Moon and Mars all being in a square to Uranus, this is a crucial trigger point to start clearing a pathway to a new cycle of courage, self love, growth,  fulfillment and happiness.   But, as we know by now, the good things don’t generally come without testing some comfort zones.

Some years back, I attended a fire walking ceremony.  At first, I refused  to participate, shrinking back,  unwilling to take the risk. But after a while I managed to  muster up some courage and go for it.  Encouraged by the supportive group  around me, all I had to do was hold a positive intention, commit to the process and  keep moving – not running – but walking… across red hot coals! As soon as I hesitated or doubted, I would feel the heat rising through my feet more intensely. However, when I shifted my mind back to the positive intention, trusted and moved forward in a committed way, I felt nothing at all…amazingly  There certainly was a huge feeling of elation when we got to the other side with our feet and our dignities intact.

As we walk through the fiery embers of the next few weeks,  it’s possible that we’ll come face to face with our shadow, with self doubt, lack of trust and possibly some  pretty volatile feelings or situations. If we are able to just be present with the emotions that arise (keep moving through the fire) ,without rejecting or projecting them, there is very real potential to burn away whatever isn’t serving us and open the door to more inspiration, expansion and liberation.

The energy of the next astrological month is all about  living whole heartedly and any of the rage or rebellion we feel at the moment, is very likely to be triggered by a feeling that we are not.

I went to see an incredible movie at the Durban Film Festival the other night, called “The Most Beautiful Day”, where two men (complete strangers) are told that they are hurtling towards death’s door. Rather than wait for it to arrive, they decide to throw caution to the wind and find their Most Beautiful Day, before they die. Its poignant, funny and well worth the watch.  But more than that, there were a few things that really stood out for me. Being given a death sentence actually liberated these men, as it does for many people in the same position. Knowing that they weren’t going to be around for long, gave them the “permission” to go out, break the rules and fully embrace the time they did have left.

They stopped waiting for things to come to them and went out to get them!

This is the only life any of us will ever have in this form!

Are you living your life, with all your might… or are you just existing….waiting ….?  Waiting for the right person to appear, waiting for more money, a better house,  more security, the right occasion to get that beautiful crockery out, light that beautiful candle,  wear that sexy lingerie? Are you waiting until your house looks good enough to entertain your friends, or until you have enough time to go for a walk on the beach, talk with a friend, learn how to play the guitar or go on that trip you’ve always wanted to go on? Are you waiting for somebody to complete you or tell you that they approve of you  enough for you to embrace all that you actually are?

  • If you were given 1 month or 6 months to live, how would you spend it… really?
  • Are you doing any of those things regularly?
  • If not, what are you waiting for?
  • How do you  really feel about yourself and your life?
  • What  makes you happy, opens your heart, makes it race with excitement or fills it up with love?
  • What is it that’s stopping you from doing more of this?
  • What are you afraid of? – THIS is a key question, because that’s what needs to be burnt in the fire?
  • What would you do differently, if you had nothing left to lose?

I’ll be sharing some insights on this theme on FACEBOOK over the next month. Please join in the conversation!

In My Tapestry of Life Workshops, we explore this theme more fully.

TAPESTRY OF LIFE WORKSHOPS

In addition to running the two part Tapestry of  Life Workshop in July and August ( on two different days) in Durban, I’m delighted to be running it as a two day workshop in Johannesburg (September) and Cape Town (October.

The workshops are designed to help you to navigate your way to your true Soular Power.

SOLAR RETURN

Each year, the sun returns to the same position it was on the day you were born. This is called your Solar Return, which is why we wish people Many happy Returns on their birthday. After you’ve had your natal chart done, its a good idea to have an update once a year. This is a stand alone chart, which gives you a weather report for the year ahead. Referring to this during the year, will help you to stay on track with your Soular Power.  We will also look at transits and progressions to your  Natal Chart, which remains your fundamental Astrological blueprint.

 

Thanks for reading 🙂

In light and life and Fiery Moons

Michelle

New Moon in Gemini 25th May 2017

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On Thursday 25th May, we have a SUPER new moon in Gemini and as we know, a new moon always signify the start of a new cycle. This one isn’t forming major aspects to other planets, but Venus is squaring Pluto, which can trigger intensity and/or challenges around our relationships, finances, safety and security. Simmering tension can rise to the surface without any warning,  so remember to breathe, before you react.

The New Moon in Gemini ushers in a new cycle of communication – how we speak and how we listen!

When you recognize that there is a voice in your head that pretends to be you and never stops speaking, you are awakening out of your unconscious identification with the stream of thinking. When you notice that voice, you realize that who you are is not the voice (the thinker) but the one who is ‘aware’ of it. Knowing yourself as the awareness behind the voice is freedom. ~ Eckhart Tolle ~

Read that again and really absorb it. If you are truly able to understand this, it will change your life!

 WHAT’S YOUR STORY?

For the next  two weeks, see if you can really be present with how you communicate. Take a few moments during the day to check in with yourself, notice your thoughts and the feelings they evoke in you – and the other way around. Become aware of how you speak to yourself and ask whether you would speak to anyone else like that. It helps me if I journal or even speak out loud here – yes, I know I would probably be locked away if anyone heard me… but it works!Only when we really take note of how we talk to ourselves, do we realise how often we repeat the same mantra’s. “ I’’ll never…….I’m worried sick about….I’m tired of…. What really worries me is…. This country/economy/ government is…. My child/partner/boss is…. I can’t take……

Our thoughts and words are literally creating our reality and only when we take time to notice them, can we choose different ones. The moment we are able to see what we’re thinking, we become the witness and in the instant, we can start changing the script.

DON’T THINK OF A WHITE BEAR

I read a really interesting article a while back  on the “ironic monitoring process”, where research studies have shown that our brains actually search for whatever thought or emotion we are trying to suppress.

In a series of experiments, a group of participants were told not to think of a white bear, while they performed other tasks. A second group was instructed to think of white bears and then not to think of them.

Interestingly, the people in the first group, who tried to keep the white bear at bay, thought about them more than once a minute!

The second group thought about them more when they were trying to suppress white-bear thoughts than when they were told to think about them.

Basically, when we try to suppress an intrusive uncomfortable thought or feeling, it’s as good as putting out a welcome sign for it.

The article suggested (and I find that it helps), to rather invite the worrying or disturbing thought in, making it intentional. Say it out loud, write it down or talk to someone about it. Then, if you think there is something you can practically do about it, set 5 to 15 minutes where you commit to focussing on it  (or really worrying about it if you want to!).  I find that when I notice the thought or feeling, rather than suppress it, and ask if it’s true, it relaxes its hold on me and often disappears completely or a solution arises easily and effortlessly when I’m least expecting it.

The more work I do with myself and clients, the more I realise that this human experience is  really about being fully present to what’s going on right now – whatever it is, … to feel into it, to dialogue with it with compassion and  from there to move forward.

HEAR YE, HEAR YE!

One of the greatest gifts I think we can give ourselves and others is that of listening, which is something we don’t do a lot of these days.   Try this. When someone you know is worried or stuck or fearful or confused, or just needs to talk,  just listen intently to what they are saying for 5 minutes or so, without interrupting, fixing, advising, prompting or finishing their sentences. If they are silent, let them be silent, even if it feels uncomfortable.   In my experience, when we’re able to let somebody just talk, after a while, answers and solutions start to drift into up into their consciousness… entirely without our help!

The same applies if we listen to ourselves.  Whether you speak out loud, or journal what’s going on for you, when you put yourself into the position of the witness, you find clarity after a while.

THE ART OF LISTENING

To work with the current communication theme,  I will be running two THE ART OF LISTENING workshops in June, where I will be teaching you how to make your own deck of Soul Guidance Oracle Cards. The process of selecting images and reading the cards in a group environment will hone your intuition and listening skills and is highly likely to shed light on important issues in your life.

The workshops will be held on Saturday 10th and 24th June – 9:00 to 4:30  AND every Wednesday in June from 9:30 to 12:30

From June, Wednesday “pop-in” classes will be in the form of stand-alone courses – with a different theme each month.

MOVING FORWARD

If you are stuck in any area of your life, this is a good time astrologically to get to the bottom of whatever patterns or behaviours might be holding you back. If you would like to explore working with me to help you to navigate your life, you can read more here. The first step on our adventure together is usually a comprehensive astrology reading, which is often followed by an agreed number of personal navigational coaching sessions, to put you back on course. These include Process Art, Neurolinguistic programming, Energy work and more.

Drop me a line if you’d like to discuss the options.

 

In Life and Light

Michelle