Lifelight Astrology 20th April 2016

Eagles fighting

This Friday 22nd April, we have a transformational full moon in Scorpio,  a highly complex misunderstood and sometimes feared  sign. What many people don’t understand is that Scorpio has three different symbolic totem associations – the scorpion, who aggressively exercises power through emotion and instinct and will sting you on the foot without a second glance;  the Eagle, who sees all, discerns hidden motives, discovers deeper truths below the surface of life and exercises power through the intellect;  and the Dove of Peace or Phoenix, who  observes compassionately without judgement and exercises power through love,  healing and transformation.

When there is Scorpio energy around, issues around power and powerlessness tend to come spiralling up from the murky waters of the unconscious. There can be fear, there can be conflict, there can be war… and there can be healing!.

This is an interesting full moon because BOTH of Scorpio’s rulers – Mars and Pluto, have just turned retrograde. This only happens with Mars once every two years, so its relatively rare. His retrograde cycle lasts until the 30th June, beginning in Sagittarius and ending in  Scorpio.  Saturn and Jupiter are in also retrograde and Mercury in Taurus will be joining the gang from  30th April until 24th May… joy of joys! Start backing up your data now!

So… we have a strongly Martian / retrograde theme – which are almost diametrically opposed to each other. It’s very much a push pull energy.

Mars is the  masculine planet of forward motion, assertion,  aggression, defence and war. He  determines how we go after our goals, how we meet challenges and how we react in the face of fear or stress. Very often when Mars goes retrograde, things get delayed, we feel irritated (largely because we want to keep moving forward) and the aggravation can lead to anger or even rage, which is stirred up from the depths of our beings. .

As always, there is a reason for this – the planets aren’t out to get us, even if it seems that way sometimes. We’re being given yet another chance to check in with ourselves and this time, to see how we react to stressful, potentially volatile situations.

Most of us are familiar with the  Fight or flight syndrome, when faced with a threat or a stressor.

FIGHT – when we instinctively and impulsively act, attack or defend.  This comes in really handy if we’re being chased by a lion, or we need to jump into survival mode. We’ve all heard stories about women who have suddenly accessed super human strength and lifted cars off their children to save their lives. When we’re in fight mode, adrenaline courses through our veins and we are stronger, faster and potentially more lethal than at any other time.

The problem is, many of us are living in that mode almost constantly – which has resulted in us being an over-stressed, aggressive and volatile society.

FLIGHT –when we turn and run – as fast as possible in the opposite direction.  Other ways that we flee, are by  numbing ourselves out – getting busy, zoning out in front of the tv, reaching for the wine or whisky bottle – anything to just make the issue go away.

FREEZE – a lesser known reaction is the “deer in the headlights” syndrome. When faced with the threat/ aggressor/stressful situation, we just freeze – unable to move or respond in any way.  Sometimes, this is good, because it gives us a moment to assess what’s going on and to re-group. Usually we recover relatively quickly and can then put on the boxing gloves or scamper off.  It becomes problematic when the paralysis continues and we become scared of making the wrong move in our lives, so we  do nothing at all.

FACE – We take some deep breaths and face the situation or the person in a direct, but non-aggressive way.

I’m going to add a 5th option:

FEEL – When somebody or something presses our buttons, we allow first acknowledge the sensations in our body and the feelings that we are feeling, without judgement – breathing at the same time.

And then… when the feelings settle, we decide how we are going to respond.

We all have our automated ways of dealing with fear or stress and this Mars Retrograde (in Sagittarius/Scorpio) challenges us to explore other ways of responding.  If we generally freeze or flee, then we might need to become more assertive. If we tend to fight first and think later, we might need to practice a less confrontational way of protecting or defending ourselves and dealing with our masculine energy.

This is a good time to reflect on some situations in your own life and find out what your patterns are.

This is how I unpacked one experience in my own life, which happened last year whilst helping out at a retreat centre overseas.  When I arrived there, I quickly discovered that the person who ran the place was rather grumpy and somewhat abrasive – not what I expected. As a result, I more or less  kept out of his way, until one morning, when he raged at me in front of the entire team, due to not receiving a telephone message.

The first thing I felt, was the heat rising to my face and that familiar old “kick in the solar plexus”. In an instant, I was right back to being an 8 year old child,  being shouted at by a  a red-faced, rather manic step-father. I  froze… tears prickling in my eyes, rooted to the spot.

Then my  fiery gut instinct kicked in (I have Mars in Leo!)… fight… go to war… give it straight back, in no uncertain terms…take him on… I mean, “how dare he!” But, I’ve been rocking around on this planet for long enough to know that going in with guns blazing does NOT generally work out well in my life, however righteous I might feel at the time.

And then I fled. For the rest of the day, I weeded in the garden like a mad-woman, allowing every conceivable emotion to surface – the anger, the humiliation, the indignation, the unfairness,  (and I can tell you, they were definitely NOT all about him) He had triggered my ‘man” issues in techni-colour.  Later that night, I burnt up the pages of my journal, letting it all out, leaving nothing unsaid, mounting a thorough investigation into the stories I was telling myself. It was quite a night!

When it was all out, I meditated for a while and when I was calm,  I asked myself what the most self- valuing thing I could do, would be. One option was to  get the hell out of there the next morning, another was just to ignore the whole thing as if nothing had happened and the third was to face him. I elected to do the third, because I knew that was  my 8 year old needed me to do.

So… the next morning, I requested a meeting with him, which lasted all of 2 minutes. I sat down opposite him, and clearly, calmly (yes I know, even I was shocked at me) stated that I felt that the way he had handled the situation was not acceptable to me.  And guess what… right there and then, his eyes softened, he said that I was right and asked if I would accept his apology. Here’s the kicker –for the rest of my stay, we got on like a house on friendly fire.  I am, to this day, so grateful for the amazing healing opportunity that his man presented with me with.

And that is, as  I see it, what this full moon in Scorpio is all about.Its an opportunity to feel, investigate,  transform and heal.

The one thing I know for sure is that we can always choose whether we’re  going to go to war or not.  We can also choose whether we’re going to engage with and get involved in other peoples’ drama. I chatted to a dear friend yesterday who said it’s like standing on the edge of a murky dirty, smelly river. We get to choose whether we’re going to plunge into it, or not.

On 21st May, in keeping with this symbolic transformation theme, I’ll be running an Art & Soul workshop,  where we will access and creatively engage with, our Power Animals and see what they have to tell us. Email me for details

I also  have some space left on my SLOW Retreat in the Midlands from 6th to 8th May, where we will spend the whole weekend reveling in the senses (Taurus) and making the most of the retrograde energy by slowing down, reflecting and revitalising.


In Life and Light





New Moon in Aries 7th April 2016

Break dance

Image “Breakdance III by double graphic

Break Dance

On your marks … get ready… for a hot-headed, fiery new moon on 7th April.  With the  Sun, moon and Venus in Aries, this signals the real start to our new Astrological year. Uranus is right there too, giving us an extra burst of potency to  clear away blocks and take some bold steps in the direction we want to move in.

We’re not going gently into this dark night … that’s for sure.  This new moon is joined closely by Uranus and squared by Pluto, which feels to me, a lot like a break dance.

Why so? Look at the image and feel what it says to you… before reading on!  What kind of energy does it ignite in you?

Let’s unpack it a bit. Firstly, Uranus is the rebel, the revolutionary, the out-the-box, unconventional maverick, who sees all, despises ruts and will do whatever he needs to do, to disrupt the status quo. He will send his thunderbolts to eject us out of any comfy little zones we might have gotten ourselves into and demand that we stand up and actively participate in our lives, as opposed to watching it all from the side-lines.

And then there’s Pluto, who brings a passionate, intense, sometimes ruthless energy into the picture, demanding that we look beneath the surface and discover what’s stopping us from stepping into our true unique, authentic power and manifesting our heart’s  intentions.

Not exactly coochy coo…. This combination turns the heat up and could even tip things upside down and turn them on their heads a little…and that’s exactly what needs to happen right now.  As much as most of us resist discomfort, we also know that very often, the only time we actually change, is when things start to feel so uncomfortable that we have no option but to do something different. It’s  going to be very interesting to see what happens politically in the next few weeks.  Even more skeletons are likely to come leaping out of closets across the planet.  Be aware that tempers might get a little frayed, so remember to breathe!

This is a POTENT time to put our money where our mouths are… stop thinking and start acting.

Here are some questions to ask this new moon:

  • What area of my life feels uncomfortable?
  • What makes me angry or irritated?
  • Where do I feel stagnant, stuck or ache for change?
  • Am I actively doing anything to change it?
  • What are the obstacles in the way of me going for what I want in my life?
  • What new idea/concept/problem have I been procrastinating about?
  • Do I really, really want whatever it is I think I want and how will I feel when I achieve it?
  • Do I feel fearful about moving forward/ starting something new?
  • What is preventing me from going for it… full tilt?
  • If there was one bold step I could take, what would it be?

Once you’ve got some answers, try taking the idea/ concept or problem and break-dancing with it. Take it on!  Turn it upside down, maybe spin it around a few times. Talk about it to a friend. Brainstorm it from a completely new perspective. You might be very surprised at the flashes of creativity, ingenuity and inspiration that arrive unexpectedly – seemingly out of the blue!

Many years ago, I co-owned a property, which we were desperate to sell. There were all sorts of issues with living there, not least of all was the severe political unrest that arose in the area, which caused a sharp decline in property prices.  We were told by a number of  estate agents that there was no way we would be able to sell, even if we radically reduced the price. I felt completely stuck, overwhelmed, paralysed and fearful about our personal safety.  I honestly had no idea what to do next. The more I tried to think my way to a  solution, the more I got myself into knots.

A very good friend came to my rescue, by giving me some of the most valuable advice I have ever received. He suggested that I imagine my obstacle  (in my case  the “sale of the house” ) as a giant letter A (I’m not sure why an A… but anyway…). He said to walk up to it, give it a little kick and watch as the supposedly immovable, impossible obstacle wobbled a bit. Then he suggested giving it another kick, until cracks started to form and eventually I began to realise that it wasn’t so overwhelming and daunting after all.  It was really about walking up to the fear and actively doing something about it – not sitting stewing and ringing my hands in powerless desperation.

I followed his advice and the very next day, decided to take one step out of the box. I turned everything I knew or had heard about selling property on it’s head and placed a seemingly random ad in a publication that had nothing whatsoever to do with house sales.  It was in fact a Ski Boat magazine of all things. Within a few days, ONE person replied to the ad,  came and viewed the house and bought it immediately, for the asking price!

So, this new moon, ask yourself what the giant A is, that is preventing you moving forward?  How can you approach it from a different angle? And then, in true courageous Aries fashion, inhale deeply and take ONE  new bold step forwards.

Find out about my Inspired Intention Workshops in April. Even if you’ve done this workshop before, it is worth doing again, because as we know, all things are in a constant state of flux, so it won’t be the same as last time.  Also see below for info on my Autumn retreat in May – an opportunity for you to slow down and connect in the exquisite Natal Midlands.

If you need some help with setting intentions or moving forward, you might consider having an updated chart done or booking a navigational session with me.

Let’s take that “A” on!


In Life and light