The Divine Romance
By Michelle McClunan
As usual, the Universe has been conspiring to provide me with exactly the material I need for October’s newsletter. After a long, dry winter in Natal, I was feeling a little arid myself, tired, cranky and creatively somewhat stuck. So, I made a decision to head to Knysna for a short holiday with one of my oldest and dearest friends, on the beautiful farm she stays on. My head was shrieking at me… stay at home and “do, do, do”… but for once, I opted to listen to my heart and just “be, be, be”.
One week later, after lots of hearty meals, afternoon snoozes, chats around cozy log fires, art making, walks in nature, a paddle down the Goukamma river, communing with donkeys, cats, dogs and other assorted flying, walking, buzzing beings, we’re both slowly starting to sense a quickening … a rustle of energy here… a flutter of excitement there… the first flush of enthusiasm… as the slightly submerged life spark slowly starts to ignite the fire of passion that resides deep within us… a little like falling in love actually. By slowing down, nurturing ourselves and allowing ourselves to “be”, we’ve been strengthening our inner female; softening and becoming more receptive, so that she can provide her inner male with a warm, fertile place to land, penetrate and light the spark of new birth. We’ve started to accept the differences and needs of our masculine and our feminine and to integrate the two. Jung called this individuation, the alchemical transformation process of the personality into spiritual gold.And that is exactly what the astrology for the end of September and much of October is all about (see what I mean about the Universe conspiring?). Mars in Leo (Driven, active, creative male energy) is at loggerheads with Venus in Scorpio (Passionate, intense, transformative female energy). The Sun in Libra steps in to help bring about peace, harmony and balance through integration. The New moon in Libra on 5th and the Lunar Eclipse in Aries on the 19th further reinforce the theme. The Uranus Pluto square becomes exact again at the end of October, so we will need to be as integrated and balanced as possible, to stay centred amidst ongoing personal and global change.
When the masculine and feminine within us is out of balance, you can bet your bottom Zimbabwean dollar that we’re going to project the lack of harmony we feel onto others, which can only lead to tension, aggression and conflict. This is basically what’s happening in Western Society, which to a large degree, praises male energy and quashes the feminine. When last did someone ask you how you were really feeling on the inside? Usually the first thing we ask is what you’ve been “up” to, how much you’ve achieved and what you’ve been doing ‘out there in the world’. And so, in an attempt to be seen in the eyes of the world as successful, we favour and strengthen the masculine and downplay the feminine. The problem is, whatever we’re oppressing, rejecting, judging or withholding has to have an effect on the opposite. Hard as we might try to keep them apart, the masculine and feminine within us can never be separated – they are woven into the very fabric that is us.Let’s look at the archetypal male and female qualities that are found within us all, so we can get an idea of what might need some tweaking. Give whatever is more active in your life 1 point and then add up either column to see which one is more dominant at the moment.
Who’s wearing the pants?
|Moon / Egg/ Earth, Water/ Yin/ Soul
||Sun / Sperm/ Fire, Air / Yang/ Spirit
In, down, under
Out, up, above
If you’re feeling stressed, anxious, brittle, filled to the brim with busyness, rational ideas, lists and strategies, but have difficulty in manifesting them into anything tangible, your inner male is probably running the show.If you’re feeling hyper emotional, heavy, lethargic, confused, stagnant or unable to move forward, your inner female is wearing the pants. What’s probably needed is a good dose of active, animating male energy to hoof her out of her sludge.
Here’s an example of how the dance can play out. We feel a pain, ache or discomfort. An awareness arises within us that we need to pause, nurture, turn inward, slow down and relax. Society and survival say “No way Jose – keep trucking – what about the rent?” So we march on like true little soldiers… firing off a relentless stream of busy little idea sperms into the world. If we can just push a little harder, succeed a little more, be more disciplined, more focused, then we’ll feel secure and things will be just dandy. In the war we wage on the world, the feminine side of us gets relegated to the sidelines like ugly floral wallpaper as we continue to climb our ‘oh so important’ mountains.
And then suddenly, the earth shifts and we feel ourselves slipping … an accident, illness, retrenchment, break-up or some situation arises that more or less brings us to our knees. We have no choice. We stop because we have to… our thirsty souls have designed it that way. We spend time being, nurturing, replenishing, listening, renewing and softening, so that when that little sperm cell comes a’cruisin’, it finds a soft fertile place to land.And then, it’s a lot like a love story… that first flush of romance when we feel special and cherished, we start to remember the things we once loved about ourselves; sparkling new ideas start to appear as if out of a fog; the life spark that we thought may have been lost forever starts to ignite. We start to feel capable, grounded, confident, ready to commit to this new unconditionally loving Divine Romance and dance the dance of life.
What’s the status of your inner marriage? Does your male have a nurturing place to come home to? Do you tell each other how much you love each other or snipe at each other? Do you appreciate your differences and love each other anyway, like you did in the beginning? Do you still cherish you? Are you faithful to you? Do you buy you flowers, write you love letters, stick to the vows you make to yourself? Is your marriage bed sacred or do you allow creepy characters to threaten its sanctity? What if you were to fall in love with all of you again and commit to yourself in Holy Matrimony?
The honour of your presence is requested
at the marriage of yourself to yourself
at my next
Art & Soul Workshop
The Divine Romance
on the 19th (full day) and 20th October (Half day)
We’ll spend a magical day re-introducing our inner male and female to each other, igniting the spark of love between them and joining them in Holy Matrimony. It’s going to be a fun creative process – there will be music; there will be prayers; there will be vows, rituals, flowers, delicious food and magical art making. If you bring three friends with you, you’ll receive a 50% discount.
If you feel ready to nourish, celebrate and recommit to yourself
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